John 14:15 - Matthew 22:37 - 39 - Love

"If you love me, keep my commands."

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ A study on the word in greek Love = Agape:

• This is a type of love not like the other versions of love found in the greek language like Philia(friendship, warm affection), or Eros(romantic)

• The type is akin to being unconditional, not merit based. You're part of a family with Him.

• Sacrificial Love you would be willing to sacrifice your life in exchange for His.
  

Instinctual Love:

• Love that has come from the observable person, and the actions that have formed out of instinct to love them.

• The instinctual necessity to be for/with one another.

When applicable to others, I find the best way to look at people as not themselves as God intended. The persona driven person of who they have attached a false self to them. A not Holy Spirit led self. A self driven to it's own lust, want, desire, idol... This self, isn't the way God saw them at first. They were not created to be the self that you perceive as the persona in front of you. Somewhere along the lines, the soul decided to condemn the persona who is found in their spirit to a life of sin. This can happen as early as childhood. The self learns its foundation in ways that have established worldly strangling of any direction except what we find on earth. This "soulish" self is the self that I find easiest to forgive, because they are not able to see/receive the instruction from above. Our Heavenly Fathers instruction. They are functioning in their lives according to themselves. According to the observable world and whatever they perceive through the soul(mind will emotions) as an infact-fact, albeit a fiction of convincing the self observation is only true if tangible within worldly manifestation. This affects most people you see, even ones you might think of in anger. It's not that they wanted to be who they are, it's that they are convinced that evil is the natural way and no other way exists.

The Bible says otherwise, and a relationship should be sought with God to find it. You can have anger towards Him, He understands. Anger is an emotion it's, real, it's usually misguided, but it's something even your Heavenly Father understands. But God does not show up unless He is shown enough Love to say you want Him in your life. He does not abide with those who set Him aside for their own lusts(life)... of the flesh. He is relational. Ask Him to show you in honesty the truth of how He views the life you lead, and How He would like you to lead it.